When we think about the situation of our children and how they affect become children of single mothers often accept being humiliated and battered by her father or some family, just wanting to lend a father figure. We make too many "sacrifices " on behalf of our children, but the result is the same. Make things worse.
The first step we must take is to take control. Taking control of our lives will make us to make better decisions and thus we show our children as mothers they have. Stop worrying about the father figure. Many times the search for the father figure is actually the search for a partner for you.
Fret for the mother figure that you give your child that if it is your responsibility. We determine the character of our children. If you are a mother who leaves abuse, humiliate and disenfranchised then then you know what the future of your child.
The education of our children depends on us. We can not leave it strange that someone or knows or cares about your welfare. At most will spend with your son or daughter 20 or 25 years of his life and then form your home and will have to leave your side. So you have to take their first years to be with him and accompanied at this stage of his life.
Do not be afraid to speak the truth. Although sometimes the answer may hurt at the time, always will be best for him and for you. Especially if it makes you difficult questions and respond with wisdom and sincerity. NEI will understand that they can trust you and that you'll be frank when necessary without having to hide or conceal something.
Do not underestimate their intelligence, especially as the children learn very quickly. Realize that you find an answer but would find it elsewhere and even worse in its way or how malicious people who may cause harm. But have an answer about it and then set a later date or time, that will help you save time but you know the subject or do not know how to approach
Trust him. Give him his space and let you develop your own privacy, but always stay connected and aware of what he does. When you've given a good education the NIO know what to do on their own and take good decisions, that is why it is important to stem the example you give, not what you say, but what you see.
Seek help and advice when deciding something important is difficult. It is very easy to make poor decisions when emotions are altered. is better to have a neutral opinion and reliable, it can be a trusted friend, a friend who has shown that it is, a book, Internet or any other resource.
Single parenthood is not a crime, nor are the first nor the only. There are many like you and we all have the same doubts and fears.
Like it or not, your child will copy all of you. Up to you, what you give to copy.
Animo! The first step is difficult but necessary and worthwhile.
Taking control is not a magic act that will make all problems disappear. Know that it will be hard and sometimes you'll want to throw in the towel, you will feel tired and depressed. Sometimes things will get worse and you may not feel it is worth continuing. REJOICE !!!... recalls that when the night is darker, is that the dawn is near. Only a little more resistant.
To encourage you just embrace your child, play and laugh with him. Look at his eyes and see that the trusts you, you're their only hope and refuge in this world.
Another thing, remember that you are a mother but also are a woman and a human. Do not forget to have fun, hanging out with friends and laugh. Walk around the park to relax the nerves.
ENJOY YOUR LIFE. Take inventory of what you have and what you discard .
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